Is marriage a viable concept on the earth plane?
This is an institution that survives out of guilt, pressure, insecurity, and longing for external stimulation though you are ignoring many other opportunities internally and externally. There is much about this institution about possession. It was born in a sense that it has always been done but there is much concern about the possession of one being or another and the treatment of beings as property. Recently, in a wide scope, this has become celebrated, it is incorporated so heavily in society that possession is celebrated and those who do not engage in it are mocked or shunned for choosing a different path or ignoring this concept entirely.
The right to enforce your partner to abstain from any other activity with another being, sexual or otherwise, is the problem. There are many who agree this is an ancient practice and assumes that those in a partnership will not find true happiness or meaning until a marriage is executed. Many fear being alone, many fear abandonment, just as putting a small band-aid on a severe trauma patient does little for the patient, involving yourself in the prospect of marriage does not truly address your discrepancies in personality, or that which causes you to have fear, it slows them, masks them, they will appear, they will be addressed, perhaps in this lifetime, perhaps many lifetimes from now, perhaps outside of a physical body entirely.
There are many who involve themselves in happiness with another person and often times this partner can occupy their space for the majority of a lifetime, but there is much that is done to pressure or control a partner with expectations. While one partner may not realize this is being done, the other partner is growing, both should be growing and changing and activating all possibilities in this lifetime.
Marriage should not be viewed as a requirement. Marriage should not be viewed as some everlasting prospect which holds you to the earth with any sense of accomplishment, that you would lack any good deed because you are married or not married. The celebration of mutual unions can be had, should be had, should be celebrated or addressed by any means thought necessary. However, do not assume that because you have agreed to join your physical existence together that your paths in life with also follow the same road.
Also realize that the mutual coming together for the child. There is much that should be done to achieve a union for this purpose. It is not required from every being, but for many it is simply bringing new life, for others it is bringing new life and raising the new being with the same individual, and for others it is a matter entirely different.
All beings, to some degree, in some area seek a sense of permanence. There very nature of all things around you show you that all things in life are very impermanent. This is not a detriment to your environment. This is not something you should fear or worry over, it simply is in existence in this manner. Fearing change is a simple statement, but many do fear it in some area. They build physical and non-physical barriers and habitats to protect themselves from learning what is truly within their own being.
Change should be welcomed, change and temporary permanence, perhaps a better method for describing the situation, should not be judged so harshly. For many, they will not take the advice or adhere to the societal pressure or demand and more conflict is created because of this. Independence can be achieved in both realms but more anger, hate, and rage is being done because this institution is so engrained in society. You can see that there are many unions, detrimental and positive, that exist without marital, religious, or government sanction. The possible union, the possible benefit, the potential for hate and dissolution of a union is just as possible no matter the term associated with it. There is simply a method needed to create control measures. Many things are done in many societies simply because they have been done before. There is no real examination of the benefit, purpose, or use of the act. Marriage is about equality and mutual understanding. Two people or many people can mutually benefit one another without control, but perhaps the control is what they desired to experience in this lifetime.
The essence of any institution on the earth plane is that it should be evaluated for each individual. Coming to terms with the temporary state of all things in life and learning to allow the energy of the human experience ebb and flow without constant fear, judgment, and acting outlandishly because of these things. There are many actions, emotions, people, and experiences that are meant to be seen as permanent in your lifetime, there are many things that are not permanent. Clinging to your desires when the world around you, the people around you are changing, this does not help you.
Build your home and your resiliency within your mind, within yourself. You should not desire to be alone or not alone, you should desire what you feel is truly for you and for your learning. There are often not widespread and general statements that apply to all situations and all people. The rules, laws, acts, practices and statements expressed on the human plane are often simply for learning but often attempt to entrench the greatest number of minds into similarity that one being can forget that objecting, publicly or privately, or simply following a different path without calling attention to it, that being forgets it can be done. This is allowed, it is permitted.
You do not enter a pool to stand motionless, you enter to make waves, to enable cause and effect. You enter life to experience it. Perhaps to makes as much energetic changes as possible, perhaps to be as independent as possible. What is or is not for you now may or many not have been part of your history or future. There essence of experience is to engage in it fully. To not ignore your emotions, to learn and engage and to free your mind from what others attempt to store in it. You are a fully aware being capable of all things great and small, the rules, laws, and practices that make many feel restrained can be lived without. That which is declared absolutely wrong, morally incorrect, it will exist and lessons achieved with or without suffocating practices and methods for attempting to corral those seen as loose ends or those who want to fight any apparent system that attempt so impart the most similar and easily digestible thinking to the greatest number.